‼️ The Courage to Be Disliked by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi ‼️

 39/∞

“Anger is only a mean to achieve a goal.”

Rating: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️/+⭐️⭐️

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📚 Length: 288 pages

🔊Audiobook: 6 hours and 29 minutes

Why you should read this book?

💡Learn to say NO to things you do not want to do.

💡Stop to care of what others are going to think of you.

💡Acknowledge that you cannot make everybody happy and make yourself happy first.

This book has a very snappy name. But is it worth reading? 

What I find weird is that this book was written by two Japs, who based their book on theory of Alfred Adler. A Viennese psychologist who lived roughly in the same time as Sigmund Freud. Adler opposed Freud and esp. his “reason” and “cause” theory. From today’s stance, Adler perceived psychology in a very similar way as buddhist monks in Asia perceived it thousand years before him. I just do not understand, why two Japs, who have closer to a buddhist based approach of spirituality would base their theory on Adler and not on some Asian buddha based spiritual theory. My guess is: because they wanted to make this book more appealing to western masses? 

Contrary to Freud, Adler says that people cannot be controlled by past traumas. Freud thought that re-visiting past traumas will help to cure them. According to Adler, traumas are our way of perception, something we made up and we need to let go of. This approach is basically rooted in Asian buddhist spirituality and until nowadays is new to majority of people living in western, performance based economies.

Learn to say NO

In the real life, we live in the world where we face danger of potential exploitation on daily basis. You might have seen all this bullshit on the internet: be kind. All I have to say, yeah, be kind, but at the same time, do not let others to exploit you. By that I mean boyfriends, girlfriends, parents, employers, governments, “friends” ets. I think that the main message of this book is simply: learn to say NO. To things you do not want to do and stop to think about what others are going to think when you decide not to follow their down to Earth ideas.

I do agree that if you overcome the fear of being yourself, nobody can harm you.

This book is actually about living in the peace with yourself. Thanks to knowing your own healthy boundaries. 

What I have learnt in this book is that you should never ever strive to be liked by others. The more people dislike you (because of your knowledge of healthy boundaries), the happier you are going to be.

Anyway, for somebody who is new to self-development, this book might be an absolute banger! But to somebody as me (how reads a plenty of self-development books a year) is this book and it’s principles not so groundbreaking. To be honest, I do not feel like it is offering something extra or something new in comparison to other books I have read in the past. But let’s get to the core message here.

Conclusion:

My opinion is that this book is going to help especially people who are new to self-development. But it does not mean it is not worth reading. 💪😉

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The Go-Giver: A little story about a powerful business idea by Bob Brug and John David Mann

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